The Secret of Setting New Year’s Resolutions You Can Keep

Secret to Keeping Your New Year's Resolutions
Do you know the SECRET to keeping your
New Year's resolutions?

With 2017 right around the corner, on January 1st, or soon thereafter, there’s going to be a large group of people starting a low-carb diet.

There will also be those returning for another try after having regained part or all of their weight loss.

Unfortunately, most of these people won’t stick around for very long.

They will probably drift away by Valentine’s Day because New Year’s Resolutions, especially resolutions that center around food, are harder to keep than they realized.

If you can see yourself in the above scenario, the game doesn't have to go the same way in 2017. You can do something different this year. This year, you can win the war against body fat.

Want to know HOW?

Why New Year's Resolutions Do Not Work

The truth is, sticking to a diet plan – any diet plan – won’t work very well (and this includes a low-carb diet) if it is your latest attempt at self-improvement.

That’s right.

Trying to self improve your self doesn’t work.

Self improvement is negative self-talk and quite painful, and we always try to avoid discomfort. That’s programmed into us since we were kids. We are literally programmed to seek after pleasure and avoid all forms of pain.

Don’t believe me?
  • WATCH yourself sometime. 
  • WATCH your family interact with each other. 
  • WATCH your friends
  • WATCH people you don’t know.
Just plop yourself down on a bench at the mall or eavesdrop on the couple over at the next table the next time you go out to dinner.
  • LISTEN to the people you work with when they talk.
  • LISTEN and just WATCH people.
You’ll learn more about your initial childhood programming and conditioning that controls your everyday behavior and reactions than you ever wanted know.

Most New Year’s Resolutions Focus on What We Don’t Like About Ourselves

I’m willing to bet that self improvement is WHY you're on a low-carb diet. There’s something about your self that you don’t like, and you believe that getting thin is going to fix the problem.

Regardless of the general low-carb mantra that says:

"It’s not a diet; it’s a lifestyle,”

And regardless of the general low-carb mantra that insists that following a low-carb diet is about regaining health, few of us truly believe that.

It’s taken me literally years to wrap my brain around that reality.

You aren't going low carb to improve your health. You're thinking about low carb because you want to fix something you don't like, something about your self that you don't like, something you believe is wrong.

Am I right?

Common New Year’s Resolutions

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There’s far more resolutions than I could ever list in a single blog post, but these are just a few:
  • weight loss through dieting
  • buy a gym membership, or a set of weights
  • plan to quit smoking
  • try to lessen stress or control anger
  • commit to be more organized
  • try to make more money
  • plan to get out of debt
All of these resolutions are negative things that you don’t like about your self, things that maybe other people have mentioned that you should fix about your self.

Could this be why only 8 percent of those who ever make a New Year’s Resolution are able to keep them? Could that be why less than half of the American population even bother with setting annual goals?

Humans are programmed to break them. You are programmed to fight against anything that causes:
  • restriction
  • discomfort
  • insecurity
  • fear
  • and pain

So What’s the Secret? Seeking After Pleasure?

I suppose that we could travel to the other side of the pendulum and seek after things that are pleasurable. You could seek after things that make you happy.

If you decide to do that, with strong feeling, these goals and resolutions would be much easier to keep:
  • spend more time with family, rather than yourself
  • take a class at your local community college
  • read a book you’ve been wanting to read
  • plan an exciting vacation or weekend
  • start a new hobby or business venture
  • take the kids to the park regularly
  • go to a movie once a month with your spouse
Depending on your beliefs and attitudes, you would be far less likely to break these types of resolutions than you would were they to cause you discomfort.

But unless you remain extremely aware, your negative programming (the suggestions in your life that you have accepted without checking them out for your self) could raise its ugly head and ruin it all.

The Secret of the Middle Path

Extremes are never helpful.

Think about a child whose parents give him or her everything they desire.

What happens?

They turn into:
  • a tyrant
  • a bully
  • a selfish adult
who doesn’t know how to tolerate even a speck of discomfort. This is because a lack of opposition in your life can be just as destructive as too much.

You need an opposing force. You need something working against you in order to polish away the roughness.

You need life to be just the way it is.

So, perhaps the whole business of setting goals and resolutions is what’s wrong with the process because a goal is always attached to an ideal.

And ideals always provide disappointment and frustration when things don’t turn out the way that you hoped.

Perhaps, that is the real reason people leave a low-carb diet.

You start off in January with a ton of excitement, hoping that you can finally correct what is wrong with yourself, but something goes wrong.

A few weeks down the road, you discover that the diet doesn’t work as well as it did for others.

Your weight loss is moving along at a crawl, or maybe there is no weight loss at all. Maybe, you’ve even gained a few pounds.

You start to think of your self as a failure. You feel disappointed because your ideal didn’t bear fruit. Perhaps, you feel angry and deceived. Maybe, you feel like it’s all your fault that the weight isn't coming off. You might even encounter stronger forces of opposition because when you're different or when something doesn’t work for you that worked for someone else, it makes you feel uncomfortable.

The Key Lies Within Our Subconscious Minds

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What is LIFE Trying to Teach Me?

THE KEY to making New Year’s Resolutions stick is to first recognize that discomfort is going to surface in your life from time to time.

You need to accept that discomfort for what it is, and move on. Put your focus somewhere else.

Because the Truth is this:

Discomfort doesn’t really matter. What matters is that you stop fighting life and begin asking:
  • “What is life trying to teach me?”
  • “What does life want me to know?”
  • "What am I doing that is causing me to forget who and what I am?"
  • "What am I doing that is causing me to make carbohydrates so important in my life?"
What you believe is True when coupled with strong emotion is what will always be true for you. This is how powerful your subconscious mind is.

So the secret to setting New Year’s Resolutions that you can keep isn’t found in fighting against your subconscious mind. It isn’t found in setting up unrealistic weight-loss goals. It isn’t found within the various plans for self-improvement or even diets that make you all sorts of wild promises that may or may not happen.

The SECRET of getting resolutions to stick is found in reprogramming your self to let go of all of the false beliefs that have brought you to this very moment of existence. 

The SECRET is to let go, and let LIFE FLOW . . .